Birthmarks and Beauty Spots

When you’re expecting a baby, you imagine them to be perfect. 10 perfect little fingers, 10 perfect little toes. We all have worries about them being healthy, and we all have that little flutter of anxiety as we go into our 12 and 20 week scans. The funny thing is though, that once our baby is here, it doesn’t matter what imperfections society may perceive them to have, for they will be completely and utterly perfect to us as their parents. They will be perfect despite any birthmarks, freckles, beauty spots or anything else that is perceived as a blemish.

When Baby Lighty was born, he was completely unblemished. No birthmarks to be seen on his baby soft skin. A tiny 6lbs 8.5oz, he was a little on the wrinkly side, like his skin didn’t quite fit his frame, but of course Mr Lighty and I thought that he was completely and utterly perfect. We still do.

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A birthmark free, newborn Baby Lighty.

At about 10 days old, a curious thing happened. We started to notice that since being born he had developed a tiny freckle under one eye. I can remember that it appeared at about this time, as when we had the postnatal Health Visitor appointment, she asked if he had any unusual or distinguishing features. I pointed out the tiny freckle, and the Health Visitor commented that it was probably just a pigment birthmark and to keep an eye on it to make sure that it didn’t get any bigger in proportion to his facial features.

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You can just see that Baby Lighty’s birthmark is starting to appear here, just under his left eye.

According to the NHS website, pigmented birthmarks such as this are called café-au-lait spots, and many children have one or two. Indeed, Mrs Lighty has one herself, and whilst pregnant, I also had pregnancy mask under one eye, in the exact same spot as Baby Lighty’s birthmark is; the Health Visitor seemed to think that Baby Lighty’s birthmark could be linked to my pregnancy mask!

To be honest, although it was a bit worrying when Baby Lighty’s birthmark first appeared, Mr Lighty and I have nothing but love for it. When I would feed him his bottles, I’d often find myself stroking his birthmark with my spare fingers, and we always say that it adds character to his already beautiful face.

I love his birthmark, it’s one of the many cute little things that makes Baby Lighty Baby Lighty. But that’s not to say that I don’t worry about his birthmark, either.

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You can clearly see his birthmark here, under his left eye.

I worry for him in the sense that, will he grow up to hate it? It’s got slightly bigger purely as his face has got bigger, and I’ve always worried that it’ll get big to the point of him feeling self conscious about it. I also worry about what other children will make of it when he gets to school age, because try as we might as parents to both bring our children up to be respectful of difference as well as shield them from any hurt, we all know that kids can be mean, even if they don’t mean to be.

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My beautiful boy!

Whenever someone new has met Baby Lighty in the past, one of the first things they comment on is his birthmark. Most of the time it’s simply out of curiosity to the effect of “oh what’s that little mark on his cheek?”, but there have been some nasty comments made too, even if they were a case of not thinking before they were spoken. As an example, a family member once said “Every time I see [Baby Lighty] I always think he’s got a dirty mark on his face because of his birthmark!” Although at the time I felt ready to spit blood on Baby Lighty’s behalf, I put a brave face on it and told the truth: that I love his little birthmark. The comment did get me thinking – or rather worrying – however. If that’s a family member saying that, what will other children say?

Birthmarks and beauty spots.

My gorgeous boy and I now.

I guess the only good thing about the whole situation is that it has made me firmly want to not only celebrate in his quirks, but also teach Baby Lighty to be tolerant of other people’s quirks. We are all different, and none of us are perfect. And wouldn’t the world be a boring place if we all were?

And yet the irony in all this? After all of this worry, his little birthmark is now starting to fade. Over the last six months it’s definitely become less noticeable. And despite all the worry associated with it, I know that if it disappears completely, I’m really going to miss it.

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6 thoughts on “Birthmarks and Beauty Spots

  1. I have to say, I didn’t realise Baby Lighty wasn’t born with his birthmark – I’ve become so used to seeing it that I’ve never known it not be there. It is part of him! We had similar worries with Alfie’s birthmark – with his being a strawberry birthmark there is a slight risk of it bursting and bleeding and we’ve had to have regular check up to ensure there’s nothing sinister below it as it is quite a protruding lump. Happily, it seems to be getting smaller as he gets bigger so Im hoping it will disappear like my one did! #DreamTeam
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    1. I think that is the way with lots of birthmarks from what I’ve heard, that they disappear over time. Yes it appeared at about 10 days old and started as a tiny freckle!! #DreamTeam

  2. My daughter has birthmark too. In the middle of her eyebrows. It gets darker if she is tired. Her dad has one in exactly the same place. We had comments too, “oh has she bumped her head” etc. But I wouldn’t change her for the world xxx

    1. Oh that’s so interesting that it gets darker when she is tired and also that her dad has one the same! I just love that! No I bet you wouldn’t change her, I definitely wouldn’t change Baby Lighty! Thanks so much for stopping by 🙂

  3. What a gorgeous post Nic. To be honest, I didn’t even notice Baby Lightys birthmark in any of your photos until you pointed it out. There will always be people who make a big deal of anything and everything. The comment about having a dirty face isn’t exactly what any parent would want to hear, what a strange thing to say. I think is beautiful and unique to your little one. Thank you for sharing with the #DreamTeam xx
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    1. Thank you Annette. I love it to bits. It’s part of what makes him him, but I just worry what the likes of other children will say as he gets older. Good to have you back on #DreamTeam my lovely xxx

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